True, if you want to be treated nicely and with respect, it is a must to treat the other with respect.  However, not in all aspects of relationship should this be followed.  Golden Rule is a big no no when it come to the aspect of SEX.

I bet i got your attention there. SEX.. SEX.. SEX..

Guys, men per se, I know (we know, i mean) that most of you want to be handled roughly.. especially down there.

According to a survey, most men want to be hailed as the one who ruled the covers.  And there is no better proof to this than having your woman loose her inhibitions and “scream” for more.  Pornographic films help promote this notion.  It is normal in this movies for women to talk dirty and handle their man’s “equipment” roughly, conveying the idea that women are “hungry” for their “tool”.  But men still have a hard time telling women what they want for fear of offending them.

I had experience once, my boyfriend tried to immitate the “slapping-of-the-butt-cheek” thing while i was riding him and right after the slap, i stopped “bouncing around” because i was surprised.  He thought i was mad and uttered “sorry” right then and there.  We didn’t finish what we were doing because we were laughing our heads off.  He said he thought that if he “gives me a hint” that he wants to roughen things up, i might pick up that clue and do it to him too.  He was afraid to tell me about “being soft” in handling him thinking that i might either get offended or he’d be embarassed.

Men, if you want to be handled roughly, tell your ladies that.  Don’t do it to her.  Some women actually wants to slow and soft, which evokes a feeling of closeness and bonding, hell, that’s what making love is about in the first place.  That’s what kissing and caressing is for.  Guiding your woman as to how you want the movement would be would be better.

For example, when she’s riding you, you can tell her how you love what she’s doing and that if she moves faster or scratch you or slap you you’d love it more.  Here, you are giving her options and surely, your lady love would be thrilled that you are actually telling her what you want which means you are opening yourself to her.

As for you women out there, men like it rough.  Don’t think too much about how he might think if you do this or that; or how you would look.  Darling, if he sleeps with you, it means you’re beautiful for him, if not, then be comforted in the idea that he wants you, you must be yummy! (Please sleep with men you love or is really hot?!?! not some jerk who just plays around, unless you’re just playing out too, okay?)

If you want a slow start or middle or finish, tell him; don’t just show it to him.  Believe me, he’ll never get that hint.  Men’s brain is programmed to move towards the height of it.  So, they move fast, think of the fun, no worries, and they act out their desires. The journey may be long, but the short cut is always better.  And acting out their desire does not only shorten the travel but gives them a direct flight to the top.